Jean,

It is amazing to read through the blogs and see how many lives you have touched. I feel extremely fortunate to have had the opportunity to know you and collaborate with you on several research projects. I remember my first day of graduate school, I was sitting in your office and you told me that your favorite part of being an advisor is watching your students grow from first year doctoral students into psychologists. It is evident that you play a large role in this growth and your students will be forever grateful. You have already shaped my growth as a graduate student and professional in the field in the short year and a half that I have lived in Michigan. I always enjoyed our meetings and left your office full of confidence and excitement to be a part of this amazing program and field. You have been instrumental in my training and I will always be grateful for our time together. It was great to see you and your family tonight and be surrounded with such positive warmth and kindness. You are truly an amazing woman!

With love,

Angie

Jean-
As so many others have said, you have always been a breath of fresh air in my life. You are such an inspiration as an educator and person. Like others, I can think back on several occasions when I didn’t think that I could complete a project and yet somehow by the time I left your office, I was very confident in my ability to do so. I never left your office feeling like I couldn’t accomplish something. You have a real gift of instilling confidence and motivation in your students. Your feedback is so real and intelligent, yet always delivered in a way that is so kind and motivating. You are truly amazing!

Your calm demeanor is also always very inspiring to me. I have always admired this in you. You have so much on your platter, yet you make it appear so simple to be a goddess at everything you do. Not to mention that you always seem to be having fun. The balance that you have in your life provides an excellent model to your students.

I feel so blessed to know you and to be able to call myself your student. I am thinking of you often and have you and your family in my prayers.

Love,
Julia

A Relative Newcomer...

I first met Jean at one of my favorite conferences…CDSPP. It was clear from the beginning that we were kindred spirits. The woman loves to carouse, play darts, and bring everyone in on the fun. I knew then, and its been confirmed by all of the postings on this blog, that I should have been hanging out with Jean years ago. But I’ll count myself lucky for the few years that I’ve been able to spend time with her. Jean—your ability to welcome people into your heart and share your spirit and passion makes you a great friend, psychologist, and colleague. I appreciate the moments I have been lucky enough to share with you and I hope I get the chance to have more of those moments.

Love and Peace,
Stacy

The size of your heart

I remember the first time I met you, Jean. I was interviewing for the school psychology program at MSU, and we had lunch together. We talked about your daughter. Liz was studying abroad and you missed her so much. I could see in your face how proud you are of her. Then you were overjoyed when Liz came to MSU because you would get to be near her again. You glow whenever you talk about your children. Seeing Liz tonight, it seems that she carries a piece of your essence, your soul; what an amazing young woman. Reading through this blog it is so amazing to see all of the lives that you have touched. Tonight I got to say goodbye to you, and I got to see many of the people close to you. It is possible to glimpse the size of your heart by seeing the hole you leave in all of our hearts. None of us is ready to let you go. You still have so much to teach us. In the short time that I have known you, you have touched my life. Thank you for the gift of knowing you. I will always remember your commitment to children, family, and students, your unbelievable intellect, your gentleness that puts everyone at ease, and the love you exude. Know that your students and colleagues will carry on your commitment to children and schools. Jean, how can we live without your beautiful smile?

Love,
Emily Sportsman

guided by your beauty, wisdom and generosity.

Jean,

Having read some of these entries maybe there should be a secondary blog attached to this one called, “drinking with Jean.” You may recall when you first began teaching classes at MSU and I, along with other doctoral students at the time (Cheryl, Anne, Amena, Ron and sometimes Tracy) learned from you about timely issues in school psychology research and child psychotherapy. Your passion for connecting the classroom to the real-world led you to hold one of our class sessions at the Willow Teen Plaza in a pretty rough neighborhood in Lansing, so we could think about how to meld the agendas of preventive teen health care, mental health services and schools while also being exposed to a neighborhood context some students had been generally unfamiliar with. Fortunately all our automobiles were still in the parking lot after class, and I fondly remember continuing our deep scholastic inquiry over pizza and a carafe (maybe 2) of red wine at Deluca’s, and getting to know you a little more. I thank you for making learning a challenging experience, but one that is fun too!

I remember thinking at the time how lucky I and other students are to have such a knowledgeable professor; one who cared about making a real difference in the world; one who genuinely cared about her student’s learning and the potential they held to take what you had taught them, and do some good things with it in the real world of hardship, pain and suffering that psychologists often confront in their professional practices.

Your teaching and modeling clearly emulated to me that while it is important to keep good boundaries between one’s personal life and the work of a psychologist, it is also extremely important to do work that is true to your self and who you are; and to love the work you do, so that others may benefit from your diligence, goodness and passion.

I very much admire your multiple illustrations of the tremendous potential genuine human relationships provide to further human development. I have come to know this not only from your research showing how teachers can positively impact tough situations and challenging kids, but also from the generous support, guidance and encouragement you have provided to me personally any time I have ever sought this out from you. I’m also remembering a very impressive presentation you made for faculty and staff at the MSU Virtual University office that I attended, demonstrating how you incorporated dynamic and engaging small group activities into one of your on-line courses. It occurs to me here on this blog, that your work, and who you are continues to blossom like the flowers in your picture. You truly are the professor whose door has always been open to those who needed you,…and you have been there for so many…like a rock!

Speaking of rocks, in reference to one of his many masterpiece carvings Michelangelo once said, “I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free.” To me Jean, I read this quote and I think of you, all your work, all of your connections to others that this blog is a testament to, and how many angels you have sent off to spread some goodness around here, guided by your beauty, wisdom and generosity. I thank you for all of your goodness, insights and support, and most importantly for bringing who you are to the work you do, even under the most difficult of circumstances that you have had to endure.

I hope to make it over to your house very soon, when it is convenient for you and your family…I’ve got this annoying torture called “comps” to contend with for the remainder of this week (I think you are familiar with this concept). I hope we can sip some red wine together soon, to remember Deluca’s and all the good times.

Warmest Regards,

John Sougstad, admirer and lifelong student (literally and figuratively)

Thank you

Dearest Jean,

I am struggling to try and put into words what you, your mentorship, and friendship have meant to me since we first met in East Lansing several years ago. We started together - I was part of the "guinea pig" cohort and you were my new advisor who I had not yet met or spoken with. Evelyn had promised me that I was going to love meeting with you, and she could not have been more right. You have this amazing gift for making everyone feel capable, comfortable, and totally at ease. I left our first meeting (and all our future meetings really) feeling ready to tackle all that graduate school had to offer.

When I think about all of the milestones, both personal and professional, that you have shared with me, it makes my heart smile. You were the first person at the College of Ed to hug and congratulate me about getting engaged. You bought me a shot after my first national conference presentation. You teared up when I told you I was expecting my first child. And you never for a moment let me believe that I would not be able to complete my degree, even though I was living in a different state, working, and starting to rear a family. I know that it is only through your constant support, passion, and love that I have graduated and can proudly call myself a psychologist.

Thank you for being such a wonderful role model to me and to all of those individuals who have been privileged enough to take some part in life's journey with you. Much love to you and your family.

Take good care,
Stephanie Davis

With Gratitude To My Precious Friend and Colleague

Dear Jean,

When you joined Michigan State University in 1999, I knew that you were something special. It took us two years to find you, but when we met you, we knew that you were the one. Back then, it was just the two of us, dreaming and scheming and building. You brought energy, passion, and zest to our work. You brought hope. You helped to craft and fulfill a vision for our school psychology program that at its core, cared about people. To our list of defining characteristics, you added a commitment to social justice. You helped to create our community, our “family” of school psychology students, faculty, and colleagues that goes beyond the boundaries of Michigan State University.

The person, Jean Baker, and the professional, Jean Baker, are seamless. Your convictions and beliefs shape your research and your teaching as much as it shapes your parenting and volunteer work. You care deeply about people and encouraged everyone around you to set high standards, beginning always, with yourself. Despite your high expectations, you had a soft heart and your compassion leaked out even when you tried to be tough.

Among your many roles I think of you most of all, as a parent. You spoke about your children with the deepest affection, respect, and love. I still remember you telling us about how Liz took the day off of high school and drove to Chicago. You were ticked off, but you were also so proud.

Over the years, you taught me so much, but the single most important thing, is that people matter. Relationships matter. This is what made you exceptional as a psychologist, researcher, teacher, mentor, activist, daughter, sister, wife, mother, and friend.

I will always cherish the memories of our times together laughing, talking, dreaming, venting, solving world peace, and doting on our children. Your generosity of spirit, courage, kindness, passion, and beauty strengthen and enrich the lives of all of us. I will always be grateful.

With love,

Evelyn Oka
Co-Director with Jean of the MSU School Psychology Program

Hello Jean

Hi Jean. I am thinking of you all the time. Fondly I have such nice memories of our conversations at conventions. You were always so interested in my children and how I was doing. That is rare these days. I hope you are feeling better and you are on my mind always. Tom Kehle and I are editing an Oxford Library of Psychology text on School Psychology and of course you are on our list of top scholars to do a chapter. If you are well enough we will be honored to have you. You are well respected. Love, Melissa Bray (University of Connecticut)

Balance

Jean, when I think about the ways my life is better for having known you, I'm not surprised when I realize that both personal and professional anecdotes spring to mind. I can remember "all the way" back to when you interviewed me for the program and we got into a great discussion of the challenges that students, teachers, and schools face. You made me forget that I was being interviewed, and that ease, combined with the passion that was so evident in your words, made me even more certain that I had chosen my graduate field correctly:

"You mean I can spend the next few years having more and more conversations like this one with all of these fabulous people? Sign me up!"

Thankfully, you were still right there when second year hit, and suddenly those wonderful discussions were getting more and more lost in the stress of things like 880 and practicum portfolios. I think maybe it was then that you shared with us your advice that while conversations alone are wonderful, sometimes what you really need is a conversation with a bottle or two of wine. Many have written already about the balance you seemed to so effortlessly maintain, so forgive me for echoing them. But you were always ready to remind our anxious cohort that no matter how much you learn, it's not a whole lot of good to you if you're too stressed to do anything with it. It was advice like that and the relaxed and joyful model you provided that made it possible for me to wind up with great friends, great memories, and great ideas from my graduate program and not just a transcript listing my completed courses.

I'm a better professional now and do better work for and with children because of you, Jean. Not just because of the conversations you inspired and the varied topics we covered in the courses of yours I was lucky enough to take. But also because I'm able to recognize when what I really need is a night with smart friends, great food, lots of laughter…and maybe a bottle or two of wine.

Thank you, Jean.

With love to you and your family,
Nora

You were a huge part in my decision to attend MSU

Jean,

From reading a number of the blogs from people who cherish and admire you,
I can tell that you are someone special to so many people. You are also very
special to me.

You played a very important role in my life even before I
was admitted to MSU.

Many professors don't have the time or the interest in
answering e-mails from undergrads inquiring about their work or the program.
You accepted my e-mails and welcomed me with open arms.

I remember being so excited that a professor in a real graduate school e-mailed me back saying,
" Sycarah, that is such a beautiful name!"

When I came to the interview and saw you in person, you were such a beacon of light and hope for graduate school.

You were so welcoming that I felt the urge and comfortable enough
to hug you. You were a huge part in my decision to attend MSU. After
coming to MSU you were great and so supportive during those times I felt
that "I just didn't belong" and you assured me that I did. I know that I
would not be where I am today, had it not been for you.

You are truly a remarkable individual and I have very fortunate to have had the opportunity
to get to know you and your wonderful family. I can not thank you enough for
just being you.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family,


Sycarah D. Grant

kindness, warmth, joy, energy, and talent.

Jean,

It was a special treat to take a class with you, something I had been eagerly anticipating for such a long time. You possess an amazing wealth of knowledge and skills. But the aspect about you that impresses me the most is what so many others have already described here. You have a way about you that exudes kindness, warmth, joy, energy, and talent. One of the best parts about having an office just across the hall from yours has been hearing the laughter that seeps out. It’s always made me want to stop what I’m doing and join the fun! Although our paths crossed surprisingly little in our small program, you still took interest in my life and well-being whenever we met. Tim recalls how you put him at ease at his first school psych holiday party by talking about home improvement together. You have a special talent for making others feel heard and valued.

In my four years at MSU I have heard nothing but praise and admiration for you both professionally and personally. In fact, I doubt there is anyone who is more well liked in the college, and who has simultaneously made such a profound impact in so many lives! I got my first glimpse of the love and respect from you felt by others across the country when I was at the APA conference in Washington, DC a few years back. I was standing awkwardly next to our group poster when one of your former mentees from Georgia walked by and noticed your name on the poster. She was so thrilled at the prospect of getting to see you. But oh, you should have seen the disappointment on her face when I said I didn’t know where you were at the moment!!:)

A few months ago you gave the students in our practicum class a charming one-inch photo frame. It sits on my desk as a subtle reminder to type enough to fill the opening each day. In addition to reminding me to get writing, it will also always remind me of you—your wisdom, generosity, and kindness. Thank you! I hope you and your family are filled with joy when you read all of the wonderful stories people are posting. How lucky we all are to know you!

With Love,

Anna

personal and professional wisdom

Jean,
Can you believe that I’m now a licensed psychologist? It was just yesterday that I was entering my first class in the program…I’m not a first-year anymore! As so many others have written on this blog, you have indeed touched the lives of so many people….including many who have never had the great fortune to meet or know you personally. I’m thankful for the opportunities I’ve had to learn from such a great mentor.

It hasn’t been just the profession that I have learned from you that I carry with me. You have made such a powerful impact on my life, personally. Your poise, gentleness, sincerity, humor (I can hear your laugh right now!)- these are just some of the great things about you that have shaped the person I have become.

Please know that you are leaving a legacy- that every student you have ever taught will continue to carry on the lessons you have taught us in our future encounters with children and their families- and in this way, countless people will continue to benefit from your wisdom and generosity.

I’m blessed to know such a wonderful person. My warmest thoughts are with you and your family.

Lots of hugs,
My

Dear Jean

We have always been impressed by you and your families friendlieness as our neighbors on the street. You have always been welcoming and we think of the time you asked us to join you in Thanksgiving dinner. Although we already had an invitation that year we enjoyed a "small" second dinner with you and your family. It was also such fun to be invited to watch the World Cup with you all and cheer on France.
You have impressed us with your energy, enthusiasm and joie de vivre. We pray for God's blessing to be upon you and your family during this difficult time for you all.
Zora & Ewen Todd

Shining such a bright light

Dear Jean,

In response to the comment from your colleague in Georgia a few blogs back – Michigan State has most certainly been fortunate to recruit such a bright light as you to a place where the weather can be so dreary (like it is today). Although I’ve only been at MSU for a few years, it did not take long for me to find out what a shining light you are. Your energy and smiles have always made the office such a wonderful place to be. From coordinating a new faculty orientation within the college, to inviting new faculty like me to your house for dinner (at which time I was so incredibly impressed with your very friendly and mature teenagers!), to collaborating with new faculty on grant proposals, to making a point of doing regular check-ins to make sure I felt at ease as a new person, to providing Hershey’s kisses at department meetings, your actions certainly model your talk about promoting positive school climates! Before getting to know you, I honestly had not fully known what a joy faculty life could be. It was such an absolute thrill to be introduced personally, by you, to so many other faculty members across the nation when I attended my first CDSPP meeting in Florida, the NASP trainers’ reception in Atlanta, and the APA social in DC. As I've recently heard several people remark in the past few months: the MSU school psychology program has “become national” over the past decade. I know this is in large part due to you, not only because of your high quality research and teaching, but also because of your actions to make the MSU school psychology program such an inviting and positive one for those involved.

Lots of love,

Sara

Jean inspires me and informs my professional work each and every day.

As a dedicated overachiever, Jean understands life as a compulsive grad student. She gave me the two best pieces of professional advice I ever received. First, work until you have a “good enough” draft of your document. She taught me that obsessing over details is just is not worth the time and effort. Also, she taught me, “The dissertation is only your first piece of scholarship. If it defines your work as a scholar, then you’re doing something wrong.” Both pieces gave me the courage to move forward as a professional. Jean inspires me and informs my professional work each and every day.

Jana Aupperlee

I Miss You Jean

Hi Jean,

I was so happy to have the opportunity to visit with you today and wanted to write to you with some of my thoughts. I didn't know what to expect when I came to the house and was sad to not see the Jean that I remembered the last time I saw you at our faculty meeting on Dec. 4, all dressed up and in great spirits as we were addressing some tough program issues. I had heard that you went through a rough spot prior to the Christmas break and then also heard things were going better. Upon my return to East Lansing after break, I got a call indicating that things had become much tougher for you and up to my visit today I kept getting more troubling reports of your health that I didn't want to believe to be true. I am sorry that your cancer has spread and that your body is not very happy with you right now. I was so wishing that other treatments would be available to you but have come to know that there are none.

When I came today, you were sleeping. For a moment, I felt tears come over me but my sadness quickly turned to comfort and joy thinking about all that you have done for me and how thankful I am that our lives have crossed paths. We have PhD work at the University of Madison in common, you were so instrumental in my decision to join this wonderful community we have here at Michigan State University, and how you mentored me through the rocky times associated with defining one's professional career. We drank wine together at many a fine School Psychology Program Holiday Parties. We drank beer together while playing darts in Deerfield Beach, FL. We had shots of JD together as you introduced me to all of your U GA colleagues at a cramped, hot, and stuffy hotel room party at a NASP conference. In sum, you are a fun-loving party girl that this Wisconsin boy certainly loves and appreciates. Most thankfully, I found in you a person who equally shared a passion for the balance that one seeks to find in their life... family, friends, career, hobbies, spirituality....

While at the house today, I also had the chance to check in with Watts to see how he and your kids are doing. They are doing as well as can be expected and they love you so much. I also got to say hello to your dogs and cat. One of the things that I really enjoyed during my visit was when Liz told me about her tattoo and the story behind the inspiration for that design. She is such a special woman and my three kids loved the times that she babysat them. I am not sure if you heard us, but Watts and his brother Earl and I had a good laugh about the time a few years back that I picked Watts up at the house and we had a couple of tequila shots and put a little flask together as we went off to see Jackass: The Movie at the Meridian Mall Theatre. Do you remember that? You were laughing at us as we were up to adolescent- no- good behavior We certainly had the giggles and do not wish to offend anyone by admitting that we joined in on the hooting and hollering surrounding many of the antics we witnessed on the big screen.

By the way, be sure to have Watts or Charles tell you about the little reminder that I dropped off at your bedside. You will recognize it, I know. It is a little yellow "Terrace" chair that symbolizes the fun and good times that we have had together and that I know you will have forever in your spirit. For those who may not be privy to the Terrace, the union at UW-Madison is a wonderful place to gather and take in the beauty of our world. It will forever remind me of you Jean, my dear friend and colleague.

For others who might want to see what this chair looks like...take a peek at http://www.union.wisc.edu/terracestore/items.aspx?cat=Gifts

I miss you Jean. May peace and love be with you....hugs and kisses. John

PS: Found this picture and while a little blurry, had to post because it's one of my favorites.

John Carlson
Jean's Colleague in the School Psychology Program at MSU

Please know that our arms are wrapped around you

Dear Jean,

I want you to know that you have touched the lives of so many
colleagues and students in the College of Education. There are very
few faculty members who are regarded so well--there is only
admiration and appreciation of your dedication, expertise,
appreciation, caring attitude, and deep commitment to people as well
as programs. You have meant a great deal to everyone not only in the
school psychology program but across the college. Your energy and
efforts have contributed to the strength and strong reputation of the
school psychology program.

Your strength has been inspiring and you have carried forth beyond
expectations. Your warmth and inviting smile warm the hearts of
others. What a joy it has been to have you as a colleague and
faculty member in this college. Please know that our arms are
wrapped around you, and you have an indelible place in our hearts.

With deep affection and admiration,
Carole
--
Carole Ames
Dean
College of Education

Like I’ve had a brush with joy

Jean, you are one of those people who have the rare gift of knowing how to be an incredible friend. You have been so generous and kind to me and my family. And what an example you have been to me—you are a great mom and wife and also a wonderfully smart and successful professional. And all the while you seem so calm and joyful! Wow!! I appreciated all the visits you made to the hospital when Thomas was going through his illness, probably more than you know. And I have appreciated and enjoyed our coffees and lunches. Every time I get together with you, you brighten my day, teach me something, and leave me feeling like I’ve had a brush with joy. Love you, Kim

My time with Jean

Good morning. From the moment I met Jean I was inspired by her never ending energy and collaborative spirit. For more than a year I have enjoyed our weekly (Tuesdays @ noon) conversations about the intersections of our work and family life. Her mentoring has meant so much to me personally & professionally. I had been struggling with self doubt as I balance academic life and mothering since I left grad school... but Jean never doubted me and for that I am eternally grateful. I feel so blessed to have her in my life. This past Thursday I was notified that a research article Jean, Jana Apperlee, and I have been working on for the last year has been accepted for publication in the Elementary School Journal. Thank you for everything, Jean! I see my path more clearly because of you.


Your friend,
Sekile

Thank you

Dear Jean,

My name is Fofi and I live in Greece. We have never met each other, yet I have got to know you quite well through Vicky's stories. Vicky is a dearest friend of mine and as you may already know, within the next few days she will give birth to a healthy baby, whose I am going to be the Godmother.

I could not possibly find the right words to describe Vicky's love, respect, gratitude and other warm feelings that I know she has for you. I can tell you though how grateful I am to you that you have been such a mentor and a dear friend to her. For all your guidance and support to Vicky, for the strength, optimism and altruism you have infused to her, as well as for your hospitality in Michigan, I thank you from my heart.

Best regards to your beautiful family,

Fofi

With Appreciation for Who You Are

Dear Jean,

As a professional colleague who knows you from only our periodic national association contacts, I've come to admire your smile, easy-going and balanced outlook, and professional commitment to school psychology. You are one of my role models as a bright woman who knows who she is and can lead with a gentle hand.

THANK YOU for your support, guidance, open mindedness, and professionalism for these dozen plus years of our acquaintance. Please know how much your NASP colleagues love you.

Susan Gorin, Executive Director
National Association of School Psychologists

Thoughts for you, Jean

Jean, you have been so much a part of all our lives; and you always will be. I love reading these accounts because I see you in new ways and I better understand the fullness of who you are. I know this entry won’t do justice to you, and to my respect and love for you, but here goes.

I met you when I first came to Michigan State (MSU) in 2001. You were one of a handful of people who reached out to a new person on the faculty and said, “let’s go out for lunch.” I liked you immediately—your smile, your intellect, your appetite for life, your kindness—and the way you could just cut through the crap! You welcomed my family into your home, made us dinner, made us feel welcome. You gave me advice about MSU when I asked, invited me to collaborate on several projects you had started, and just listened when I needed to vent. I remember sitting around and talking about schooling and education, hearing the extent of your visions for what schools need to do to really help kids who struggle; kids who are vulnerable and who few others understand. There is such clarity and brilliance in your ideas. I have always felt in awe of you, Jean; even more than a little jealous. You are so widely admired by colleagues, administrators, and students. You do it all—an outstanding and innovative teacher, a creative and productive researcher, an amazing mentor, a model citizen. How do you do it all—and do it all so well?

But this makes you sound so boring; your professional accomplishments are important, but only one facet of your multidimensionality—of your richness. Jean, you sweep others along with you in your enthusiasm, in your zest for life, and in your good ideas. I think of you and I think of dozens of moments in the intersections of our personal and professional lives—teaching, meeting, talking, dining, laughing, gossiping, helping, scheming--and I so wish I had made more time for those moments. I think of you and I see you in your office, talking at length with a student. I think of you and I see you cheering lustily for France to win the World Cup. I think of you and I see you taking the time to help Maria, my daughter, get the help she needed at school. I think of you and I know that good deeds and living the good life aren’t contradictory. You are so damn full of life, and bigger than life, and you will always be a part of my life.

Cindy

Summertime fun with Jeanie and Trudy

I used to be so lucky that my mom and dad would let me go visit with my really fun cousins for 2 weeks in the summer. Jean and Trudy had the reign of the girls school in Staunton Virginia that their mom Frances(my mom's oldest sister ) worked as either the head mistress or as the head nurse(not sure which?)
Their dad Jack was the Episcopal priest at the church that was across the street from the school (At least that's how I remember it)
We played all day on the school grounds running through what seemed like mazes and laughing a lot. I had my first acquaintence with Episcopalians(later went on to marry an Episcopal preist's son and converted ). I was really taken by all the times you have to stand and kneel!
Trudy and Jean always called me Dee-Dee(Dee is my middle name) Noone else has ever called me that except them!
So when Frances died and I found out from Aunt Helen's daughter Debbie-I made contact with Trudy and Jean to express my sadness. From that point we were able to be part of Trudy's wedding to Drew with many other Arnold cousins who had all lost touch with each other-(We all used to play together at Grammy and Grampy's camp ,Dunwurken on Pushaw Lake in Bangor Maine when we were kids)It has added a whole new dimension to my life and most likely all our cousins who were able to reunite with their families at the wedding or at my house for Easter- Of course Jean and Trudy;Rodney and Vicky Fitzpatrick -Glenice's kids: Tommy Claybaugh-Millie's son; myself,Gary and Tina-all Joan's kids,Patti Arnold-Harold's daughter!
My life is so much richer for finding these wonderful cousins who carry on the legacy of the Arnold Clan and I cannot even express the joy in sharing our lives stories, together.
I may have lost them all physically for a long time ,but I never lost my love for them all.
Having the opportunity to spend precious time with Jean at Trudy's wedding and the visit when she and Liz were down for spring break are times I will treasure forever!
Please give her my deepest love !
Dee-Dee

I've enjoyed reading everyone's stories about their experiences with Jean. I've known Jean for about 7 years now and it's been wonderful to have her as a teacher, mentor and friend. I met Jean shortly after she began to develop her first online course, I was assigned to help her with the technology part. When we introduced ourselves she was quick to note that she wasn't sure about online teaching, but since she has always been interested in a challenge she thought she'd try it out. Little did she or I know at the time that the very course she wasn't sure about would become an award winning online course!

As Jean and I got to know one another better, I realized she would be a great person to invite to be on my doctoral guidance committee and dissertation committee. Lucky for me she accepted and I can't begin to tell you all how helpful it was to have her support, feedback and friendship throughout the process.

I think, though, that I most cherish the friendship I've now developed with Jean as a colleague. She's done so much to encourage me to seize new opportunities and supported me in those efforts, even if she wasn't feeling 100%.

Jean, I am truly grateful for your friendship!
Keeping you in my thoughts,
Scott

I’ve heard so many wonderful stories about Jean and her family in this blog, and I would like to share another story from our young adulthood. I think that we all agree that when we talk about our experiences with Jean, it’s not only Jean that we talk about, but other family members as well. This is the same wonderful family connection that I saw when I first met them in 1970.

Having lived next door to the Baker’s, they always made me feel like part of their family. I felt that I had a special relationship with them as a family and with each, individually. We spent much of our adolescent years together, Jean, Trudy and I. Jean is two years younger than Trudy and I, but she was always included with everything that we did and it was quite evident that Jean and Trudy had always been the best of friends. All through high school I spent many weekends sleeping over at the Baker’s house. We would stay up late watching TV, listening to music, making prank calls to friends and just being teenagers; having a blast. Regardless of what time we went to bed, Reverend Jack would always wake us up for Sunday mass. Having been raised in the Catholic Church and not in the Episcopal, I took advantage of my parents being away, and would sleep in. On occasion I attended a service or two with Jean and Trudy, and was surprised to find that the format of the mass was very similar to the Catholic mass. When I questioned Rev Jack about the similarities, I got a very long history of both religions and was told emphatically that I was a “Roman” Catholic which is different than an Episcopalian “catholic”, and that I should never mistake the fact that they are different. He was always very passionate and proud of being an Episcopalian minister and held it in the highest esteem. Hmmmm…..well, needless to say, I picked up on his sensitivity of even the mere suggestion of the Episcopal Church being akin to the Roman Catholic, and I took every opportunity to question and tease him about it.

I tell you that story to tell you this one: When it was announced that Jean and Watts were to be married, it was a very happy time. I chuckle when I think about the day we were together talking about it. Jack, Fran, and Jean were there, and I’m not sure if Trudy was or not. Anyway, we were all talking about Jean and Watts, where is he from, how’d they meet, etc., having a wonderful time, when Rev Jack leaned over to me, had his hand up to his face as to whisper to me so that no one else could hear, (but of course everyone could) “he’s a Lutheran!” I laughed and replied “well, at least he’s not Roman Catholic!” We all roared! Jean, smiling, rolled her eyes; looked at her dad, who was smiling and looking back at her, told him “you’re incorrigible”. You could see that they shared a a special moment. Of course he meant the remark in jest because of our religious discussions. He then went on to talk about what a fine young man Watts was and that he and Jean would surely have a happy and wonderful life together. Smart man!

Jean Rocks, pt. 2

As Gene has said, Jean Rocks. We joined Holy Cross Lutheran Church at about the same time Jean, Watts, Liz and Charles joined when we all moved to Athens. Since first meeting this wonderful family, we formed a special bond....how can you not with such a warm and fun family. Of course, Charles and Brandon bonded like two brothers. I remember how the two boys would find each other at church to sit together and Jean and I would be flanking them like bookends. These boys are way too cute for us to not sit in on their conversations. I remember hearing their “whispering” conversations and Jean and I will look at each other and nearly busted out laughing at their antics. Jean will share with us child rearing stories and she would give us advise which had been invaluable to us. I too remember the wonderful parties Jean and Watts would throw on special occasions and sometimes for no reason at all except for good fellowship. I especially treasure the mornings of when Jean stayed with us to visit when she is back in town doing her Grant research and we would just talk and talk. While we had serious topics to discuss, we also had a lot of laughs. What a gem of a gal.

Sister Jean Rocks

We have known Jean, Watts, Liz, and Charles for over 14 years and continue to enjoy a very close and special friendship with our family in Athens, GA. Our special friendship started as a small ministry group at Holy Cross Lutheran Church where we enjoyed: many fun adventures in the great outdoors (Jean and Watts especially loved the many wonders that are there to enjoy) including parks, hiking, splashing at water parks or at the pool - Jean is such a terrific, charming, and fun sister full of joie de vivre!; many heartfelt, in depth, and profound discussions about life, spirituality, philosophy, beer, raising children, child psychology, more beer, and many of life's growth opportunities - I have always marvelled at Jean's wonderful insights and gifts in all these areas, many of which we applied for our family and conveyed to others. As Jean and Watts are also gourmet chefs and terrific hosts, we also enjoyed the many wonderful parties full of great food (even the experimental recipes) and fun fellowship with their expansive circle of friends and family which ensured there was never a dull moment in the Baker-Rozell household with a seemingly endless stream of life traffic flowing through. Speaking of family, Jean and Watts were not only totally devoted to their lovely children, beautiful and free spirited Liz (wonder where she gets it from??), tall and handsome Charles, but also to Jean's mom and dad, Fran and Jack respectively; Jean and Watts expanded their home to share their love with Fran and Jack where they enjoyed their time together partying, gardening, and bonding. This type of love and devotion is reflective also of the type of love Jean and Watts share: free flowing and expansive as the wind and holy spirit, and grounded in the Lord our rock and earth as the foundation. When Jean transferred to Michigan with this terrific opportunity we and our Holy Cross family missed Jean's wonderful spirit and fellowship tremendously. We enjoyed Jean's frequent visits to Athens to work on various projects and had the recent good opportunity to return some of the early favors by sharing our home with her and with Watts and Charles on other occasions with good food at some of Jean's favorite places including the Grit, Blue Bird cafe, Last Resort, and the Botanical Gardens. We also enjoyed visits by Charles who has always been great friends with our son Brandon and marvelled at how TALL Charles has grown with rock star good looks as well; with his ingenuity Charles may even convert the cello into an electric acoustic instrument for his band someday. Charles and Brandon have always had a special bond ranging from their love for Star Wars (with frequent light saber duels), Legos, video and PC games, music, and obstacle courses. We also enjoyed taking Charles around some of his more familiar areas (Athens eateries; White Water waterpark; Six Flags) and some new adventures (LAN Gaming parties; GA Aquarium; Sweet Tomatoes gourmet salad restaurant; Grand Buffet chinese seafood restaurant to name a few). Brandon also had fun on several trips to Michigan where he visited several museums, shows, enjoyed gourmet (and experimental) cooking, and even participated in a 'cooking show' for gourmet cookies produced by Liz and Charles!.....Yumm!

Jean, Watts, Liz and Charles are FAMILY (which means that you're STUCK with us) who we miss here in Athens and will always have in our hearts and spirit with love, hugs, and smoochies always! God bless and Keep y'all in His loving care with Peace, Balance, Healing, Strength, Courage, and Wisdom.......Your Athens Family, Brother Gene, Sister Kathy, Brandon, and our Holy Cross Family

Southern thoughts

Here's another friend from Athens,GA. new to the Blog world but Jean, Watts, Liz and Charles are worth my attempt. Elizabeth was the only other girl my daughters age in Sunday School and she and Christina hit it off from the start. They attended different schools but they were in Girl Scouts together as Juniors and received their God and Country Award together with Watts help and guidance. Jean even became one of the GS Leaders and added her professional expertise to our challenging and diverse group of girls. Halloween was always another adventure and I only recall Charles being a Star Wars character or Ninja of sorts, always with a stabbing "weapon" of sorts in his hands,and very active!; Elizabeth was a Princess. Thanksgiving dinners at your house in Cedar Creek was a delicious and joyous occasion, with much drinking and merriment. You were all there for our family when Tim was sick and we have been blessed with seeing you when you have returned to Athens for quick professional meetings and your travel pictures these past years. Charles was TALL when we saw him this year visiting Brandon and Athens.
Keep loving generously, caring deeply, receive the comfort of our prayers and leave the rest to God. We all love you, Lynn, Christina, David

JEAN AT MOTHER'S 80TH BIRTHDAY!

Jean made her way to Oklahoma for mother's 80th Birthday party! We were so delighted that the entire family could make it for this special event!
Jean these are the other family members in Oklahoma that love you too!!
We are so happy that Jean , Butch , Charles and Elizabeth could be at this very special event!
Ann & Randy

Hi, I'm Becky from Athens, GA. I knew Jean and Watts and Elizabeth (she wasn't Liz then) and Charles as we worshipped together and did ministry together at Holy Cross Lutheran Church. Jean was teaching a parenting class when we first attended and did so much to make us feel welcomed and included. I so enjoyed her way of calm, intelligent, happy, creative insight! Her family was so refreshingly wacky and real. We had great fun and meaningful fellowship with the Baker-Rozell family and my thoughts and prayers are with them.

JEAN ONE OF MY FAVORITE SISTER-IN-LAWS!

Jean is on of my very favorite sister-in-laws! (please don't tell the rest of the sister-in-laws) Once you meet Jean, you know that she is a very special person with a warm and caring heart.
We are all so very proud of her and all of her accomplishments over the years!
Randy and I so enjoyed our visit last Fall with Jean and Butch and my wonderful niece and nephew Charles and Elizabeth.
The entire family was so gracious to us on our visit, and this was our first time in Michigan, and as I left was wondering why we had not visited them before now.
Jean and Butch always came to Oklahoma to see us except when our father flew us all up to their wedding in Boston twenty six or twenty seven years ago. And that was a wonderful trip for the entire family! What a beautiful memory to have!
We love you Jean! And I am so very proud to have you as my sister-in-law!
Ann & Randy

There are a lot of family that love you Jean in Oklahoma!

I joined Jean's Blogger today, from Korea

Hi,
My name is Gu Ick Lee from korea. I'm Watts's frend and one who loves Watts's family.
I'm glad to join this blogger and I'd like to talk with you about everything especially
Jean's matter.

Warm regards

Gu

where to begin...at the beginning.

I met Jean but I call her Weenie, {not sure she has ever been keen on that but it is a term of endearment} the summer of '73. I was hired as the Arts and Crafts director at an Episcopalian camp Bement outside Worcester Ma. I fell in love with the camp and Jean simultaneously. Jean was still at Barnard and I called her my brainiac friend. Weenie introduced me to sipping Sherry in our little outpost building on the days off when the campers were gone. It was lovely, I hadn't known the joys of feeling tipsy at 3pm on gorgeous Massachusetts days. And I was the elder! We talked endlessly, we cuddled we laughed and we played and talked even more. I was welcome at her parents home and i recall a bizarre contraption in the kitchen that was a sauna for one...looked like an iron lung machine, it terrified me. They had a chihuahua that had terrible breathing problems..it snuffled an awful lot...it was weird, i didn't know people like this! I remember her mom and her endless energy, cooking baking for church functions making wacky craft projects. Her father was the first Episcopalian minister i had met, and been invited into the privacy of his domain. His family referred to him affectionately as "Hilly", but i don't think I ever knew why. Or my age has made me forget at this point He had a wonderful library and the room itself was woody and filled w/books and had a serious intellectual feel to me. I loved that room. Their home was warm ,loving and filled with good humour and acceptance.

I worked at Bement for a few years and loved it there, Jean and I were soul mates. She has a wonderful giggle gaggle laugh...a kind of "guffaw." One evening as we returned from a night off and out at a local pub called the Massasoit, which is now no longer, as we walked a little giggly and tipsy, we walked up the incline to camp, there was a newly built replacement building in which her mom worked and lived and tended to giving out meds and the sick campers as well as it housing visiting ministers and others. As we approached the building there we saw a wall of windows on the side of this structure, I am dating myself but like from Rowan and Martin's Laugh-In TV show, we saw a few images happening at once while the inhabitants saw nothing. excpt the darkness and Jean and I, if they happened to be looking... our very funny friend Todd was yelling to us, we are now hysterical w/laughter as one of the "drier" stuffier visiting ministers could be seen in full light by Jean and myself while sitting on the potty reading a newspaper. We nearly wet ourselves while Todd couldn't understand what the heck was so funny. It was a sight!! if you can imagine.

I graduated college and moved to Chicago and made it thru my 1st yr attending the Erikson Institiute, during that yr Jean came to visit, we lost a dear friend that yr and Jean of course picked me up in Boston and held me and we cried all night. The next yr Weenie decided to take the risk after graduating herself and moved out to Chicago and we shared our apt. She brought the family Siamese cat who ate peanut butter out of the jar...i loved the cat. I remember that year Diana was marrying Prince Charles and her parents came to Chicago and those wacky 3 Bakers holed themselves up in a hotel and watched all night and day. I couldn't imagine what all the fuss was about. Jean then met Watts very shortly thereafter and that my dears is the beginning of that journey for them.
I was in thier wedding and Jean came to mine in '83. We visited when Elizabeth was a baby when they were in Ma for a visit and I was pregnant with my first.

I love Jean, I always said she had the creamiest white skin I had ever seen....creamy like milk, just beautiful. we never fought, I always have loved Jeanie for the wonderful friend she was to me. We shared many interests and loves. I wont go into that!

My only regret is that I didn't get to know Elizabeth and Charles and share more in our professional careers and daily life. But we did share many years and I suppose I had to let you all have the opportunity to make your own memories.

Raising Children

My friendship with Jean is more recent than some described in these wonderful postings - yet it is over 20 years old now. I measure the length of our relationship by the ages of our children (Jean's oldest, Elizabeth, and my only, Will) who are only three months apart in age.

I met Jean when we were both pregnant and I was teaching my first class in the School Psychology Program at UW-Madison. Jean was a student (outstanding, of course) in the class. But our friendship and professional collaboration was cemented when, two years later, Jean completed her year-long internship with me as her supervisor at the Waisman Center in Madison. Our professional work together was rich and stimulating; even now when we get together at conferences we jump immediately into discussions of our work. But our friendship has always had at its center our early parenting days together. While at the Waisman Center when the children were two years old, we regaled each other with stories of the kids (and, yes, sometimes the fathers). I'll never forget the day Jean bounded into my office and said "You will never guess what happened this morning!" That day Watts had combined the dregs of three different kinds of cereals into one bowl for Liz. Oh the shock! How could he??? Didn't he realize how upset she would be? We laughed until we cried. When we left to go to our first conference away from Madison (Nashville!) as mothers - leaving the children behind- we hooted and hollered as we drove away from her house - independent for four whole days. Yet at the end of our trip we could hardly wait to have those children (and fathers) in our arms.

We remain connected through our children. I love my updates on how Liz and Charles are doing. I hope to continue receiving them for a long time to come. All my love to all of you.

Jean, Cousin Diane, & Trudy @ Wedding/Jean with Baby Ottawa

My marriage to Drew a year ago was cause for celebration - a celebration that included a family reunion. Jean was my Matron of Honor and key in the planning and execution of a near flawless event. Many of the Arnold clan (Fran's side of the family) gathered here in South West Florida - some from as far away as New Hampshire, including our dear Aunt Helen. It was especially fun as many in attendance were cousins that Jean and I had not seen since our childhood summers at Grammy & Grampy's camp in Maine.

The next day, Jean hosted a brunch for the relatives - many stories, laughs, and Bloody Marys were shared. Jean did double duty that day as she was also babysitting our kids (quite spoiled ones) - Kevin & Shelly (Chihuahuas) and Ottawa (Cavalier King Charles Spaniel) - while Drew and I spent a few days away. She was wise enough to wait until we got back (I checked on them several times by phone) to tell me that Kevin was nearly inconsolable at times, howling in the window thinking that his mama had left him. Ah, the duties of an aunt!!

The corner of Allen and Park Ave.

Yes, Jean and her family had a Park Avenue address! No, not NYC, welcome to Athol, Massachusetts! There are so many memories of Jean, Trudy and I hanging out together...a few that I would like to share.

I met Jean and Trudy a week before school started, mine and Trudy's freshman year. I had been away all summer at our house in New Hampshire, and didn't realize that a new pastor and his family had moved in. I was pleasantly surprised when I met Jean and Trudy, (girlfriends! Yeah!) because I had lived on Allen St. my whole life and the neighborhood was all boys. Because I had lived next door forever, I knew the inside of the house like the back of my hand. I used to sneak into the kitchen and slip up the back stairs to hang out, unbeknownst to Fran and Nit. (Nit, our nickname for Jack, I don't remember where or why??)

Fran and Nit endured hours and hours of us listening to the 8-track tape deck with Joe Walsh, Bad Finger, or Jethro Tull blaring. We spent many Sunday afternoons eating popcorn, drinking grape juice and listening to Deep Purple. Poor Christopher Robin, we teased him relentlessly. To this day, when I hear "Smoke on the Water", I'm back at Park Avenue with Jean and Trudy.

Jean's first crush??? Johnny P. We teased her relentlessly too!!

One winter, Trudy and I wore full length, wool Army coats and Jean wore a Navy one. It was all the rage in high school. We "borrowed" them from our dads or uncles, since most of them had been in WWII or the Korean War. I think they weighed about 100 lbs...they were very heavy! But, because they were cool, and lots of our friends were wearing them, we wore them!

Jean, Trudy and I had many, many teenage experiences together...some to share, some to keep private. I'll end here for now.

Jeanne
(or, as Fran used to say, "little Jeannie from next door"...get it? Jean and Jeanne - both pronounced the same. It was her way to refer to me.)

Collections

Jean and I have had many a laugh over the years at what Jean calls her best "Trudy Story", one she has shared with many. We go back to high school and Miss Brown's Biology class. Part of my obligation to fulfill course requirements was the assembling of various "collections" during the year. In Baker tradition, they became family projects. Those of you who knew Jack and Fran, know that we were not the outdoor type of family. Jean led the way through the woods in search of the right colors for the leaf collection, and was out in front of us with a jar and a butterfly net to get the specimens for the "bug" collection. The last collection of the year was one of fruit. Being a bit rebellious and very much over collections by that point, I assembled the final one myself.
Each time Jean told the story, she would laugh and laugh as she recounted my wiping off the heavy syrup from the pieces of fruit as I took them from the can to pin onto the styrofoam board. What put her on the floor every time was my placement of the final piece in the middle of the collection - a marachino cherry!!

Act Early - Acting Out

Jean,
Over a Christmas break at the Univ. of Georgia you and I ate pizza and keyboarded away putting together a proposal that became the ACT Early Project - Advancing the Competencies of Teachers for Early Interventions With Youth At-Risk for Emotional, Behavioral, and Academic Problems...what a time that was, having Aderhold Hall quietly to ourselves as we wrote and edited. Little did I anticipate they would actually give us money to go out and have a wonderful and creative experience studying the individual, group, and systemic characteristics of students, their teachers, and their schools. What a delight, and truly rewarding. The project continued for three years with our ACT Early Team developing a culture of creative scholarship, with you, Randy Kamphous, and our graduate students working to change the world of assessment, evaluation, policy, and intervention. Then Michigan State called, but we continued the project another 4 years, and low and behold, students are still using the data today to make sense out of how our students develop and how teachers address the problems of individual and systemic behavior. A lot of "professorese" discussion to say: that was the most creative set of years and the most enjoyable and fun research project I've ever engaged in. You, my friend, happen to have been the spark, the element of creativity, the surge of energy, that made this project great. I learned an enormous amount from you and Randy and our students, and I continue to marvel at the shared experiences we had. And the great wine and bourbon discussions marked the memory well also.
I am still irked that Michigan State got you - we had such a wonderful team - and I miss the friendship. Thanks for reaching out and helping maintain the contacts all these years. We'll get LIFE done and then move on to other fun ways to be connected.
Now, as to recipes - our recipes were for fun and creativity...yet we cooked up some great plans, interventions, and projects. Thanks!
Hugs...Andy

Dunwurken

This is my very first entry on a blog, anywhere, ever... So I'm not quite sure if there is a protocol. But honestly, I've never been real concerned with protocol, so here goes...

Thoughts of Jean bring me right back to childhood summers at Grampy's camp on Little Pushaw Lake. Every summer I spent a week or two up there with the Baker's. My sweetest memory may be of the three of us - Trudy, Jean and me - jumping out of Grampy's small fishing boat, naked, into the the lake. Such a sweet innocence to it...

I remember Trudy and Jean were really into Batman and Robin, which is something I never could understand.

Another thing I never understood back then, but what I finally came to understand when I had my own child, was what I thought was this imaginery world that they had made up with their soft-spoken father, Jack. It seemed to me that Jack mostly whispered all the time. And he whispered a lot to Trudy and Jean. They made a lot of references to Pooh and Piglet. I didn't know what they were talking about, but I did know that they had a magical relationship with their father...one I envied. When my son, Tucker, was a few years old, we were introduced to the movies of Winnie the Pooh. They were delightful, and I was shocked to find that Winnie the Pooh had been a classic children's book , and the source of the magical world that I thought Trudy, Jean and Jack had created.

My summers at Dunwurken with Trudy and Jean are my favorite childhood memories. The end.

Recipies From Jean

God I do not know what I would have done with out her help. Amen

Jean is guided by several first principles.

1. Do it right the first time.
2. Always think six steps ahead
3. Peace and balance
4. Take time to enjoy life
5. It is hard for me to remember all of these so please add your own stories as to things that Jean has taught you or that you hold in common with her or taught her.

I'll add more as I go on.

The first step

Dear Friends and family,

We had a great Christmas, filled with all of the traditions of the season. The whole family attended Christmas Eve service at http://www.allsaints-el.org/

Spirits are strong as we walk through the valley.

Jean’s cancer has returned and has spread throughout her body. She is taking chemo therapy and I am praying that she will recover her strength. Two weeks ago I grew so concerned with her condition I called Hospice. The time for their care has not come. Her spirits are strong and we have many kind and loving friends that are praying for us and supporting us in many ways.

I invite your participation in this online forum.

Warm regards,

Watts